...that sometimes people would just hurry up and get over themselves?
Or more importantly, decide what they really want. After all that is what is really most important.
Look at it like this. If you are a citizen of a foreign country and have deul citizenship with another country. You have to at some point visit both countries. However, after a while that kind of gets tedious. You could have a home set up in the first country and just a small apartment in the other. Lots of friends in the one country and a few in the other. Of course you are probably enjoying yourself being able to move around from place to place see new things. At some point you are tired of carrying all that baggage back and forth from country to country and you want to settle down. Do you do it where you spend the greater half of your or the lesser half of your year?
One poor man's two cents (Canadian).